Having a conversation about premature ejaculation isn’t a conversation most men want to have.
Many men are embarrassed about this issue, and they want to resolve it on their own.
However, premature ejaculation can ruin a sexual experience for both the man and their partner, so it’s an important conversation to have.
Fortunately, there are ways to overcome premature ejaculation.
In the article below, we will go in-depth about what premature ejaculation is and what can be done to counteract it.
What Is Premature Ejaculation?
Premature ejaculation is a form of sexual dysfunction that occurs when a man ejaculates sooner than they want to during sexual activity.
Premature ejaculation is a widespread form of sexual dysfunction, with estimates saying that as many as 1 out of 3 men experience this problem at some time.
If it happens infrequently, it’s nothing to worry about.
However, you may be diagnosed with premature ejaculation if you:
- Always or almost always ejaculate within one minute of penetration
- Can’t delay ejaculation during intercourse all or nearly all of the time
- Feel distressed and frustrated, and tend to avoid sexual intimacy as a result
There are biological and psychological factors that can play a role in premature ejaculation.
Many men are embarrassed to talk about it, but premature ejaculation is common and treatable.
There are medications, like anesthetic creams, counseling like behavioral therapy and couples therapy, and techniques during sexual intercourse that can help you last longer in bed and improve sex for you and your partner.
What Are The Causes Of Premature Ejaculation
The exact cause of PE is unknown, but it is widely believed that serotonin plays a role.
Serotonin is a natural substance made by nerves in your body.
High amounts of serotonin are believed to increase the time to ejaculation, while lower amounts of serotonin can shorten the time to ejaculation and lead to PE.
Psychological and mental health issues can also lead to PE.
These conditions may include:
- unrealistic expectations about sexual performance
- history of sexual repression
- lack of confidence
- relationship issues
Premature ejaculation can happen at any age, and although aging isn’t a direct cause of PE, it can cause changes in erections and ejaculation.
Erections may not be as large or as firm for older men, and they may not last as long before ejaculation occurs.
The feeling that ejaculation is going to happen may shorten.
All of these changes can lead to rapid ejaculation.
Being unable to achieve normal ejaculation can also cause you to lose some closeness shared with a sexual partner.
You may start to feel angry, ashamed, or upset and start to distance yourself from your partner.
PE can put a strain on sexual relationships and cause partners to feel less connected and hurt.
Talking about the problem with your partner is an essential first step.
Sex therapy, or couples counseling, or sex therapy can be helpful.
More importantly, a couple should learn ways to relax.
Worrying and performance anxiety can make PE worse.
Premature Ejaculation Treatment Options and Home Remedies
Fortunately, about 95% of men can be helped with behavioral techniques that help control ejaculation.
The stop and start method is when you or your partner stimulate your penis until you feel like you’re about to have an orgasm.
Right before orgasm, you stop the arousal until the feeling passes.
Do this again three or four more times before you ejaculate.
The squeeze method works the same way as the start and stop method.
But with the squeeze method, you or your partner squeezes the head of your penis when you feel like you’re about to have an orgasm until you lose the erection.
Repeat this a few times before ejaculating.
You can also try to strengthen your muscles.
A weak pelvic floor can sometimes contribute to PE.
Exercises like Kegels may help strengthen pelvic floor muscles.
To strengthen these muscles, squeeze like you’re trying to stop your urine in midstream.
Contract the muscles for 3 seconds and then release them for 3 seconds.
Do this ten times, at least three times a day.
Wearing a condom may desensitize you enough so you can last longer.
Some men also find that masturbating hours before sex will help them stay in control during a sexual encounter.
A psychiatrist or psychologist may be able to help you with problems like depression, anxiety, or stress that are known to contribute to premature ejaculation.
If these treatments aren’t enough and you still don’t have control over ejaculation, speak to a doctor.
Your doctor may discuss medications with you. While there aren’t any medications specifically approved to treat PE, there are medicines used to treat other conditions that may help in some cases.
What’s The Difference Between Premature Ejaculation and Erectile Dysfunction?
Many people confuse erectile dysfunction with premature ejaculation, but they are two different health conditions.
If you have ED, though, you may develop premature ejaculation due to the anxiety that comes with ED.
If you have ED and are worried about losing your erection during a sexual encounter, you may ejaculate prematurely.
If you prematurely ejaculate, your penis will likely deflate after ejaculation, but that’s not the same as ED.
The best way to treat your condition is to communicate clearly with your doctor about what exactly happens when you ejaculate.
You’ll need to talk about any issues you have getting an erection, how long it takes you to ejaculate, and whether you can control when you ejaculate.
How Is Premature Ejaculation Diagnosed?
If your ejaculation times are interfering with your sex life, and you want to last longer in bed, you should speak to a doctor.
Healthcare professionals will perform a physical exam and ask you questions about your sexual activity.
Based on the exam and your answers to their questions, your doctor may order lab work to make an accurate diagnosis.
Your doctor will also answer your questions and reassure you that this is a common problem.
Choice Men’s Health Can Help With Your Customized Treatments
If you’re suffering from premature ejaculation or worried you have erectile dysfunction, it’s time to see a medical professional.
At Choice Men’s Health, we can help diagnose conditions like erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. We can help develop a treatment plan so you can last longer in bed and improve your sex life.
If you have questions about these common conditions that many men face, Choice Men’s Health in Atlanta, Georgia, can help. We’ve been helping thousands of men have great sex again.